#honesty

Well it's not surprise I haven't blogged in a few days.

I think a better bad habit for me to have tried to break is not keeping my commitments. I'm so bad with saying I'll do stuff and not following through. So just a little update; Tuesday I was very successful I complimented lots of people. Yesterday, not so bad I still complimented people and thought positively. Today.... not so good. So I will think of six nice things about a person I do not like. Now out of respect for the individual I will not use their name. So for the purpose of privacy I am going to call them Colbie. So first nice thing about Colbie; She is very outgoing and is friendly with lots of people. Second, she has really nice hair. Third, she is always really happy. Fourth, she has nice eyes. Fifth, she's really smart. And sixth, she was created by God and if for no other reason this is enough to respect and love her. (That last one is a bit of a cheat, but it is kinda actually really hard to think of six nice things about a person you don't like. Now you're probably reading these things and are like how could you not like this girl? She sounds pretty nice. And honestly she probably is really nice, but have you ever had a person that just seems to bother you for absolutely no reason? Thats this girl for me. Just being in the same room with her sometimes can be enough to annoy me. (Now you're getting to see the not-so-nice side of me) I'm trying to think nicely of people. But it is taking me sometime, so just stick it out with me, I'll get there.

Hope you guys are doing well on breaking your habits!
Infinite x's and o's

Allysin

#Fail

For all you Tweeters out there...#(hashtag)FAIL!
         I'm sorry I haven't blogged the past two days...

Now I could come up with a billion excuses. And let me tell you, I have a lot of them, and some of them are pretty legit and reasonable. However that doesn't change the fact that I committed to blogging everyday for 21 days. So let me catch you up.

So the last thing I left you with was I was going to try and find something to encourage the girl at my work that I didn't particularly like. Well I DID IT! It wasn't easy I was having the hardest time coming up with something. BUT then it came to me. See Sunday morning she had slipped on some ice and banged up her knee and had been kinda limping a bit all day. And at the end of the day I told her. "You are a trooper, even though your leg is hurting you hardly complained, you kept going and pushed yourself all day. You did fantastic!" and you know what? She smiled and said thanks. And I had that warm fuzzy feeling come to me knowing that I was able to make someone else feel better about themselves.

Monday came around and you know what? Nice things came naturally. There is this one person at my school that not .... well not a lot of people enjoy spending long periods of time with. And I know this person can think rather harshly of themselves, and does not always have the highest self esteem. Well when I first saw them yesterday they were dressed really nicely so I walked right up to them and said "____, You look super nice today!" and I know it made them feel good, and they had a nice big smile on after that.

You know, sometimes it feels good when you are being.... what I like to call sassy. Sometimes it really makes me feel good, or I have fun being like that. BUT it can come at the cost of someone else's feelings. Although others may say they know you are joking around it can actually really hurt that person. But knowing that I feel good at the expense of someone else makes the good feeling short lived. However, saying something nice to someone else makes that person feels good, and makes me feel good knowing that person feels good. And that good feeling is a lot longer lasting because you realize you are actually a nice person who makes others feel good about themselves (and I don't mean this in a proud way at all).

Anyways my point it your words are powerful, so use them carefully. And not only that but once you have said your words you can't take them back. So use your words wisely.
Infinite x's and o's
Allysin

Encouragement Day #1

SUCCESS!
                 So my bad habit that I want to break is thinking negatively about people. That means I want to replace this with a good habit that I will develop over the next 21 days. [For those of you who kinda suck at math, which I do too] that means my goal date is March 10th. By then I want to have started the habit of looking for positive things in the people around me that i can encourage them and compliment them with.

                 Like I said, SUCCESS!!!!! I did it today. I had training today for my new job which is in a bakery. Well I was working with this lady who is the hired cake decorator. Let me tell you she was just amazing at it. And so I told her. I told her that she was really artistic and super creative with her decorating. And you know what was so nice about saying this, was she had the biggest smile on her face when she said thank you. I knew I had cheered her up just a little bit. Although I have to be honest I worked with someone today that I do not particularly like, and I had a really hard time coming up with positive things about her. To be honest I haven't come up with one yet. BUT I was thinking about it and trying to look for the positive. I work with her again tomorrow and I'm going to see if I can find something to encourage her with.

                    HOWEVER, lets say I don't succeed. Lets say I do not encourage someone once a day. There needs to be a consequence. So I was thinking about what would be appropriate. And I decided if I can't encourage one person one time every day then for each day I fail at this I will have to write down SIX NICE THINGS about someone I do not like.

Seems fair enough right? well thats my update for today. I hope to hear how you guys are doing with overcoming your bad habits! Leave a comment! OR START YOUR OWN BLOG! I want to hear about your lives!
Infinite x's and o's
Allysin

P.s. I had said my friend and I were going to do this and that I would post the link for her blog.... well here it is! www.whipped21days.tumblr.com/ 

What does it mean to be 'whipped'?

So....
              Probably looked at the title of this blog and were like, 'whipped? what is THAT all about?' Well you see I don't mean literally being whipped by something. So I looked up the definition of being whipped on  www.urbandictionary.com and here is the definition it gave me, "Being completely controlled by your girlfriend or boyfriend, in most cases a guy being completely controlled by his girlfriend"


WOAH WOAH WOAH! I know what you're thinking now. You think this blog is going to be about relationships or A relationship. Don't get too excited (or in some cases don't exit this window yet) this blog has nothing to do with a romantic relationship. 


No. Whipped is about SOOO much more. It's about breaking bad habits, and replacing them with good ones. It's about being controlled by things the things you do without even thinking about it. See my friend and I were talking about the things we do that we'd like to change about ourselves. Apparently it takes about three weeks, 21 days, to form a habit. Well the way we see it it should take the same amount of time to break a habit. Or at least replace the bad one with a good one. 


So we're going to blog about our experiences, we no longer want to be controlled by these negative things, and want the positive to begin to show in our lives. 


I'll be posting my friends link to her blog on here soon, that way you can keep up with both of us on how we're doing.


My first bad habit that I want to break is thinking negatively about others. So I want to replace that with encouraging others. I first heard about a challenge presented by www.livedifferent.com where you take one week and just encourage those around you. One nice thing about one person every day for a week. Well if the theory about 21 days is right then if I practice looking for positive things in people for 21 days it should just become automatic and I should begin thinking less negatively about others.


I think you guys get the idea. 


So I will blog soon with the game plan and HOW this is all going to happen, but until then....


infinite x's and o's

Allysin